If you’re starting a new school, college, uni or job, making new friends can be daunting. Everyone feels wobbly inside when it comes to finding and fitting in with new friends. Some people are definitely better at making the first move though.
As the saying goes: “friendships don’t just happen”. So how are they made?
You need to:
Once you’ve found a new friend, or a wider friendship group, how do you keep things sweet?
Show your friends you care about them. That doesn’t mean spending every minute of every day with them, that’s not healthy. But perhaps you could think about:
It may help you to think about a friendship code, and discuss these issues with your friends, at home or at school. What really matters to you in a relationship? Where does respect come into all of this?
If you’re in a room of new people, remember everyone feels as scared as you. Don’t let it get to you. You’ll soon be making new friends.
Even if you feel scared, keep smiling! A smile makes you feel positive inside and other people will feel a whole lot easier about coming up to you.
Keep investing time in your friendships. You can’t survive without them. A quick text, a friendly wave, dropping round to see someone all remind friends they matter to you.