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How does self-confidence affect me?

How does self-confidence affect me?

If you have high self-esteem you generally feel good about who you are. As a result, you might:

  • find it easier to socialise and make friends, especially with new people
  • put yourself ‘out there’
  • take part in things
  • be proud of things you’ve done
  • learn new stuff
  • adapt to change
  • accept mistakes and take responsibility for them.

If you struggle with low self-esteem you may dislike who you are, think you’re unattractive, unlikeable, and perhaps even unloved. Low self-esteem can result in the following experiences or feelings:

  • anxiety
  • depression
  • isolation
  • struggling to go out or talk to others
  • putting yourself down
  • struggling to make and maintain friendships and relationships
  • being angry and/or tearful.

Is it normal for my confidence to change?

Changes to your self-esteem and confidence are very common. Sometimes you might feel really positive, other times you might feel low and worried.

It’s quite normal to feel a bit negative about yourself and it doesn’t mean it will last forever.

Top tips for building self-confidence

Award illustration Notice your achievements and the positive things in your life. No matter how small, make a note of achievements and accomplishments. As the list grows so will your self esteem.
Hobby illustration Do something you enjoy and that you are good at, could be from doing paid work, volunteering, helping others or taking up a hobby. Try something new, something you have always wanted to do
Friends illustration Spend time with people who make you feel good and with friends and family who support you and accept you for who you are.
No speech bubble illustration Learn to be assertive – it’s ok to say no. Being assertive is about valuing yourself and how you feel, and being open with people about how you feel.
Exercise illustration Look after your physical health through: exercise, lots of fresh air, a healthy sleep routine and a balanced diet. Looking after your physical health can help you feel happier and more confident.

More helpful info

Understand why you feel like you do by understanding your Teenage Brain – Watch a TED talk on the 'mysterious workings of the teenage brain' by Sarah Jayne Blakemore

Mind have some great tips to help build build self-confidence.

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