Self-harm can become a habit and then an obsession which takes over your life. Before you know it, you’re trapped in a cycle or circle of self-harm.
This diagram shows how:
|Trigger event||Bullying, stress from exams, disputes with family, problems with friends, stress at school.|
|Emotional pain||Anger, stress, numbness, feeling of being worthless, feeling of hating themselves, feeling overwhelmed, feeling alone, distress, guilt.|
|Self-harm behaviour||Cutting, scratching, burning, poisoning, pulling hair, banging|
|Result||Calming down, sense of relief, feeling real, focussing on the present, feeling control, preventing suicide, getting it out.|
Although self-harming can make you feel better for a while – because you’ve dealt with your emotions – you’ll soon have regrets, feel guilty, embarrassed or full of shame. You might struggle to work out why it is you feel like you do, and what’s making you do this. Someone else’s perspective to help you untangle your thoughts and emotions could really help.