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Negative relationships

Relationships are complicated no matter how old you are, and they aren’t always perfect. It’s normal to argue and want your own space.

When relationships are ‘good’ they can be brilliant, but when they’re ‘bad’ they can be horrible. You might struggle to recognise a healthy relationship, especially when you’re new to it all!

Negative relationships

Some behaviour can be upsetting, damaging and abusive. It’s good to be able to recognise when a relationship is no longer making you happy, or if it’s becoming dangerous.

Here’s some examples of negative relationship stuff:

  • Someone’s controlling you (telling you what to wear, where to meet up and when, ‘or else’).
  • Someone’s stalking you, or invading your personal space (texting you all the time, demanding you come home, following you, or hacking into your phone, social media accounts or email address to read your private messages).
  • Someone’s forcing you to do things you don’t want to do (making you have sex or do sexual things when you don’t want to, feel comfortable or ready for it).
  • Someone is forcing you into a marriage you don’t want
  • Someone’s emotionally abusing or bullying you (putting you down and/or being nasty – such as telling you you’re worthless, stupid, thick or ugly, or not worth it).
  • Someone’s physically abusing you in any way (pinching, scratching, biting, punching, to name but a few).

If you, or someone you know is in immediate danger, you must call 999 without delay.

Top tips for getting help

People illustration Expect to feel good in your relationships but it's normal to disagree and argue occasionally.
When a relationship begins with caring, loving behaviour and then becomes controlling and abusive (including sexual abuse) it is no longer a healthy relationship.
People illustration

If your relationship is making you unhappy talk to someone you trust and work out a way to end the unhappiness.

More helpful info

Brook have some really useful information about good and bad relationships.

Free confidential advice on sex, relationships and contraception: Sexwise helpline on 0800 282 930

If you feel you are been forced into a marriage which you don’t agree to contact an organization such as Karma Nirvanafor support

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